Are you a people pleaser or a God pleaser

Lord, please show me anything I need to work on in my life. Do you ever pray this prayer? Well I do! Matter of fact, I pray these types of prayers quite a bit and God always shows me something to work on. To be honest, sometimes I don’t always like what He shows me, […]

Lord, please show me anything I need to work on in my life. Do you ever pray this prayer? Well I do! Matter of fact, I pray these types of prayers quite a bit and God always shows me something to work on. To be honest, sometimes I don’t always like what He shows me, but I take what He shows me, and commit it back to Him, by asking the Holy Spirit to help me gain victory in that area.

So lately, He has shown me that I’m a people pleaser. He revealed to me that I care too much about what people think of me. And to be honest, this is something I have always struggled with, but I thought I had it under control until God showed me that I didn’t. So now is the time to accept it and allow the Holy Spirit to change it. In the past, I would seek attention from people, looking to them for acceptance but now I can see that I’m seeking approval. I can also tell that it’s affecting my obedience to God. When God tells me to do something (i.e. pray for someone), I find myself asking questions like, what will people say? Will they think I’m being too spiritual? I get so concerned with the opinions of people that sometimes my first reaction to God is not obedience, but of fear of what people will say.

However, God has revealed to me that there are some people in my life I will never be able to satisfy, no matter how hard I try. There will be people that won’t understand the vision God has put in my heart and there will be people that will dislike me because of the vision God has given me. This is just the way it’s going to be and there’s nothing I can do to change it. Though it may be painful, I must learn to wear people loosely and not worry so much about what they may say or think.

In one of my study times with the Lord, I was reading the book of Genesis when I came to the story of Abram who would later be named Abraham. One thing I realized about Abram was when God called him and told him to leave his native land and move to an unknown land, he did not complain about what he was leaving behind. In fact, the bible says, “so Abram departed”. Genesis 12:4. Meaning, after God instructed him to leave, he packed up his wife and nephew and left, not knowing where he was going. Now, that’s faith! Abram’s actions said, Lord, I don’t know how, when, or where but I will trust You. All he had was a promise from God, and his faith that if God gave him a promise that promise will surely come to manifestation.

The question is, how many people, myself included, would have missed out on their promise because they are too worried about what people may say or think? I don’t want to miss out on God because I am so focused on people, and their opinions. Seeking the approval of others can be a hindrance to one’s life. Let’s use King Saul as example in 1 Samuel 15. God commanded King Saul to go to war with the Amalekites and to kill everyone including their livestock. However, Saul did not do exactly what God commanded him to do. Instead, he killed everyone accept the Amalekite King. When the prophet Samuel confronted Saul about his actions, Saul said “yes I have sinned. I have disobeyed your instructions and the LORD’s command, for I was afraid of the people and did what they demanded.” 1 Samuel 15: 24-25. You can read the whole account in 1 Samuel 15.

The sparing of the Amalekite’s king caused King Saul to lose his kingdom to David. He feared the people more than Almighty God, the One who called him to be king in the first place. Now, I’m not mocking King Saul because I know this can happen to anyone. People can be very demanding about what they think is best for you and if care is not taken it can lead to serious trouble.

When I read accounts of people in the bible, I tend to put myself in their shoes. I want to do what God has called me to do. I do not want hidden weaknesses to cause me to not fulfill my God given purpose on the earth. Therefore, I am always crying to God to show me things about myself that may be a hindrance to my growth. When He showed me the amount of control I have given people over my life, I started to seek His power to transform me.

I don’t know what you may be struggling with today, but I want you to know God can give you victory over it. Jesus died two thousand years ago, to give you victory in every area of your life. Your weaknesses do not have to control you. You can have victory over it through the help of the Holy Spirit. As for me, every day I am resting on the Holy Spirit to transform my thinking about how I see myself. Only God can value me. He’s the One that knows my true worth!

Until next time, be blessed and keep the faith!

Your sister in Christ,

Nuku Nwajei

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